Minneapolis Leadership Coach Insights: A Question Every Leader Should Ask

As a Minneapolis leadership coach, I meet with a lot of people who want to become great leaders. Leaders are hungry for more information and tips on the concept of leadership. The problem with the word leadership is that so much is focused on the complex nature of it’s impact and little on the simplistic description of its essence.


It’s like wanting to discover the silver bullet that leads to good health while simultaneously rejecting all known research on nutrition and exercise. To discard it and say, “yeah, I know all that good health stuff, I don’t have time for that; I just want to be healthy."

The Recipe for Leadership

This is the case when it comes to leadership; we know the recipe, but we ignore it all because it just seems too difficult to maintain the discipline. I want to suggest that we make becoming good leaders easier. Instead of increasing our knowledge surrounding leadership knowledge, we can start our day by asking questions that lead to becoming better leaders. I believe that choosing to ask questions and wrestling with the answers will support our goal of being a more effective leader.

So what questions should we be asking? Questions can help us not only have an intellectual understanding of leadership but start tapping into the essence of what makes a good leader. One of the best questions a leader can ask surrounds the practice of acceptance. 

Do I practice acceptance as a way of life?

Our control issues as leaders can lead us to judge our team members through a lens of right wrong.  We can start to believe that stern judgement and clear corrections are actually supporting a person’s growth and development when the opposite is actually true.

How rejection impacts our team


According to philosopher Dallas Willard, rejection is the strongest human impulse. Human biology has been shaped throughout human history to protect itself from danger, and there are very few threats like experiencing the rejection or judgment from a superior.  

If we move only focus on a person’s mistakes and weaknesses, we evoke the persons self-protection mechanisms hardwired in their biology thus damaging our ability to observe with them ways in which they can learn and grow.

Leaders change lives

There are very few things more powerful to a person than the acceptance or validation from a person authority. As leaders, we have the power to change lives.  We can help those we lead heal and empower them to grow and succeed. The secret lies within our ability to accept the person and suspend judgement until we collaboratively discover a way to help them grow.


Ready to get started with acceptance as you lead your team? 

Capturing the essence of leadership can be challenging. Here at the Leadership Game, we're here to help. Scheduling a leadership retreat with your team will give the tools you need to get started with practicing acceptance and tapping into ways to help your team grow. 

stephen Crawford